How To LOVE what you HATE -
from cleaning the cat box, to visiting some you can't STAND.
One of the basic premises behind HSR is that our Unconscious mind is in the driver's seat of most of our feelings and behaviors. The challenge then comes as to how we should tell the Unconscious chauffer where it is we want it to drive us to! Where is it we wish to arrive.
ONE TIME LEARNING
Most people practice a lot of what is called "One Time Learning" or responding Via programmed responses rather than what HSR refers to as "Intentional Thinking." when a child puts his hand on the stove and gets burned, there is a built in physiochemical response that takes place. The NEXT time the child touches something hot, the signal does not even need to make it to his or her brain for the hand to react and pull away. The response in essence becomes programmed so there is less time lag between the stimulus and the reaction. This CAN be very useful, for instance with a hot stove.
But Programmed reactions can become detrimental as well... in fact it is the methodology by which people create most problems, fears, etc. ONE time in their life they have an experience which is somehow negative , unpleasant or bad; and every time thereafter- the don't stop to see if their reaction to s similar situation is reasonable, they just react to it. for example, someone who has a bad experience with their first love may get short breath or panic or run when they hear the words "I Love You." They don't stop to realize that they are playing a recorded memory, feeling, judgment or reaction to those words, they just play back the stored experience and go with it.
So it is when we find our self in a situation doing something we don't like. Usually it is not the situation we are in at that moment that we are reacting to, but some past memory of a similar (often only very REMOTELY similar) experience or a hallucinated future of a bad experience- in other words a future memory.
Intentional thinking is the concept where we STOP... we use the things that used to trigger an old behavior to INSTEAD trigger us to pause and ask "why am I acting this way?" or better yet, "What would I rather do or how would I rather react (think, feel etc) INSTEAD of what I am doing (feeling, thinking) right now?" The only thing that stands in the way of that sometimes is the one time learning itself. I.e.- when we are carrying out a programmed behavior it is sometimes hard to stop ourselves mid stream and ask these questions in any useful way. Seems like a dead end, right? WRONG!
ll you have to do is to break or disrupt or loosen that programming. There are a lot of ways, but here is one of my favorites:
Twinkle Twinkle Little Star....
Mozart once wrote a piece that was variations on twinkle twinkle little star, basically it is the common tune played over and over again in many different various styles and themes. You can find a modern recording of it, I believe, on the Mozart Effect CD. Think about the activity, situation or problem you don't like, and in your mind imagine playing a movie of it while you listen to the Twinkle Twinkle variations. EVERY TIME the music style changes or repeats, imagine the same situation but going through it in some new or different way.
In other words, let's suppose you hate cleaning the cat box- each time the music changes you would imagine doing it a different way- in a scuba outfit, floating in the air, dressed as a clown, using a vacuum cleaner. Anything from potentially possible, to the silly and absurd... By doing this you loosen or break the old memories and experiences of this activity or situation which allows you to begin asking the "Intentional Thinking" questions. If you do ONLY THIS PART with a minorly annoying activity, you will find it much less annoying in the future.
With more major situations you will want to then follow this up with the "Intentional Thinking" questions, and maybe even apply that to the process of Self Hypnosis.
If you can not find the recording named above, try to find some children's record with short simply kids songs on it, and record one of the songs over and over in a loop, or use the entire recording. Every time the song starts again or changes to a new song, do the visual game outlined above.
SO, what are you waiting for... go out and start changing the way you THINK about those things you used to hate!